Tips on how we can learn to hold space for others.
What does "holding space," really mean?
The definition of holding space is to be present with someone, without judgment. It means you donate your ears and heart without wanting anything in return. It involves practicing empathy and compassion. You accept someone's truths, no matter what they may be, and put your needs and opinions aside, allowing someone to just be. Holding space may appear to be easy, but sometimes our own opinions and egos can get in the way, making it a bit more difficult to put into practice.
With the traumatic events happening in the world today, the world is at a crucial tipping point. Many people are feeling anger, grief, loss, depression, and hopelessness, while others feel unsafe or unheard. Now, more than ever, it is important to create safe spaces for those we love to feel heard and held.
Learning how to effectively hold space for someone is a skill that we are not really taught, but we can all learn. When we do so, we allow for deep connection and healing. Here are a few things we can do to get started on the road to holding space for those in need:
✨ Practice deep listening✨
Deep listening is the art of listening not just to hear what the person is saying but listening to understand. Listening without judgment. This can be hard, but the true definition of nonjudgmental is someone or something that does not express an opinion. We all have opinions, and it is in our nature to share them, but when holding space for someone, you must remove your opinion from the conversation and allow the other person the space to present theirs.
✨ Practice loving kindness✨
There is a popular loving kindness meditation mantra that reads, "May all human beings everywhere be healthy, happy, and free." It is the art of sending positive and loving thoughts to all in the universe.
✨Make room for others✨
Make room for and allow the other person to feel all that they need to feel.
✨Use the power of your breath✨
Deep breathing is one of the most powerful ways to stay connected to yourself, which will deepen your connection to others.
